
Trauma Resiliency Life Coaching for Survivors of Relational Trauma
If you are a mother struggling with the aftermath of parental alienation, Trauma Resiliency Life Coaching with Animal-Assisted Healing offers compassionate support on your journey toward recovery.
Parental alienation contributes to relational trauma, complicated or ambiguous grief, betrayal, and difficulty trusting yourself and others.
Healing may involve developing self-awareness, practicing self-care, strengthening emotional regulation, rediscovering self-worth, setting healthy boundaries, communicating clearly, and reconnecting with your personal strength.
Animal-assisted healing can provide a safe, compassionate, and nonjudgmental connection. Through this bond, you may practice emotional regulation, experience secure attachment, rebuild trust, and engage in grounding, movement, and exercise within a supportive environment.
Understanding how trauma affects the brain and body is an important part of recovery. After overwhelming experiences, the nervous system may develop protective patterns that influence thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and relationships. These patterns can contribute to hypervigilance, emotional numbness, difficulty managing emotions, or feeling disconnected from yourself.
This often leads to chronic or complex relational trauma which can make life feel confusing and overwhelming. You may react in ways you don’t fully understand or feel disconnected from your thoughts and actions. These responses are not character flaws—they are learned survival strategies.
As your teacher, coach, mentor, and guide, I can help you better understand your nervous system and recognize patterns that may be affecting your life. Together, we can gently build new pathways, strengthen resilience, create healthier relationship foundations, and work toward meaningful, attainable goals.
**If this sounds familiar, let’s help your heart feel safe enough to listen, connect, and love again.**
What to look for
Some patterns in people with a history of complex trauma:
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Lack of self-awareness (feeling numb)
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Fear of trusting people, yet desiring to trust people.
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Loneliness and Isolation
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Difficulty regulating emotions
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Emotional flashbacks
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Memory problems
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Hypervigilance
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Loss of Faith and Hope
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Unmet needs drive behavior
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Intense Shame and Guilt
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Self-blame
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Lack of personal Worthiness
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Dissociated
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Anxiety without specific obvious reasons.
We each have a "Window of Tolerance (WOT)", that is a metaphor for our individual habits in managing stressful situations and self-regulating. We unconsciously park in one of these windows.
Which Window Is Home For You?
Fight/Flight (Hyperarousal)
When the Autonomic Nervous System is in the Sympathetic state you might experience:
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Tension or shaking
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Emotional reactivity
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Defensiveness
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Racing thoughts
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Flashbacks
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Emotional overwhelm
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Feeling unsafe
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Rumination
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Hyper-vigilance
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Impulsivity
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Anger/Rage
Safe (Rest and Digest)
When the Autonomic Nervous System is in the Ventral Vagal Parasympathetic state you might:
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Feel and think simultaneously
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Experience empathy
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Feelings are tolerable.
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Present moment awareness "right here right now" (grounded)
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Feel open and curious (versus judgmental and defensive)
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Awareness of boundaries (yours and others)
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Reactions adapt to fit the situation
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Feel Safe
Freeze (Hypo arousal)
When the Autonomic Nervous System is in the Dorsal State of Hypoarousal you might have:
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Relative absence of sensation
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No energy
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Reduced physical movement
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Feel "not there"
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Can't defend oneself
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"can't think"
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Numbing of emotions
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Disconnected
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Ashamed
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Flat affect
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Feeling "dead"
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Shut down
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Passive
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Can't say no
What Effect Does Toxic Stress Have on your Body?
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Decreased cognitive processing
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Reality checking reduced
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Decreased memory function
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Reduced ability to inhibit behavior
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Little or no logic
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Little reasoning
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Poor planning
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Poor follow through
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Difficulty creating priorities
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hypervigilance
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cortisol issues
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cortisol interference with protein synthesis at the cellular level
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sleep issues
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digestive issues
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phantom pains
You might need additional support with medication BUT...
There are predictable, absolutely correct biological responses to REDUCTIONS in biochemicals and we can find ways to increase them naturally. Signs are:
Reduced Dopamine
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Procrastination
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Low self-esteem
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Lack of motivation
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Low energy or fatigue
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Inability to focus
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Feeling anxious
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Feeling hopeless
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Mood Swings
Reduced Serotonin
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Low self esteem
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Overly sensitive (emotionally reactive)
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Anxiety/panic attacks
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Feeling hopeless/helpless
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Obsession/compulsions
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Insomnia
Reduced Oxytocin
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Feeling lonely
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Stressed
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Feeling alienated
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Lack of motivation
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Disconnected from relationships
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Feeling anxious
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Insomnia
Reduced Endorphin
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Anxiety
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Depression
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More intense Aches and pains
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Mood swings
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Insomnia
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Impulsive behavior
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More inflammation
There are predictable, absolutely correct biological responses to INCREASES in biochemicals and ways for you to decrease them naturally. Signs are:

Nor-Adrenalin
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Increased anger and agitation
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Aggression
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Assertiveness
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Controlling
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Hostility
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Interference with emotional learning
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Reduced empathy
Adrenalin
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Increased fear
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Anxiety
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Desire to flee
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Desire to withdraw
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Reduced attending/focus
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Hyperactivity
Cortisol
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Reduces Dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and endorphins
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Reduces reality checking
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Reduces executive function
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Reduces ability to stop/inhibit behavior
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Reduces logic and reasoning
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Interrupts forming sequential memory
